Choosing to Grow: Through Marriage
TreasureLine Books 2011
In summer of 2003, I was legitimately flailing through marriage and motherhood. I was a full-time SAHM with two kids ages three and one. We had moved four times in five years, and I was at the bottom of the darkest part of my life. I set out on a journey to save my marriage, but in the process I discovered more about myself than I could have ever imagined.
I interviewed over seventy women and collected 175 questionnaires about how women survived tough patches in their marriages. Over the course of two years I conducted my research and read anything that would help me to move back toward my husband again. What I discovered was life-changing. My current relationship with my husband is as good as ever. Since 2003, we have added another kid to the mix, and a part-time job for me. I have continued to pursue this writing project because writing is, and always has been, my deepest passion.
I could never have done this project alone. Because of the willingness of the women who shared their lives with me, and the unending support of my husband, I have achieved what I set out to do. I wanted to save my marriage, and I wanted to find a way to do what I love without sacrificing the family we have built.
The book Choosing to Grow-Through Marriage is available for purchase. You can order an autographed copy from my website: www.meaganfrank.com and it is also available on Amazon and Kindle.
Excerpt from the book:
I’d like to say I understand a lot more about marriage and about staying married than I did when I started, but in all honesty I only better understand the intricate complexities of my own marriage put up against the backdrop of some general marital principles I discovered along the way. I had hoped to be able to explain why my parent’s marriage fell apart and why it is such a contagious problem in my family. I searched for that genetic reality that once identified could be treated and maybe even cured. I didn’t find that. What I found was a complex set of reasons why any individual marriage may make it or not. What I found is that each marriage is unique unto itself and each person within the marriage carries a responsibility that only goes so far. I am the only person responsible for my own happiness, and accepting that has made all the difference.
Chapter 2, CTG: Through Marriage