Choose What Kind of Old Person You Want to Be

26 Apr

When I’m old, I want to be in a weekly flash mob.

There is a book I’ll write some day…Choosing to Grow:  OLD. The tricky part will be that I don’t want to wait until I’m old. I know well enough that if I am going to age gracefully, it starts with the habits I have now.

Age happens, and there is nothing…did you hear me? NOTHING…we can do about it.

There are limited hours in the day, limited amounts of energy to expend, and we have to choose how we use the time we have.

My quick glance through Google this morning identified a problem. There are age-defying skin products, age-defying fashion tips, age-defying fitness programs, turn back the clock regimens, and BE YOUNGER ads everywhere. I am pretty sure this is a multi-gazillion dollar business. The movement afoot is about NOT aging.


What a waste of time! (and we’ve already established that we don’t have very much of it!)

The more time people spend trying to turn back a clock that is stubbornly moving forward, the less prepared they are for the inevitable future.

I would actually listen to a company that sold products to celebrate the age I am while helping me to plan for the age I will be.

I can hear the tagline now: “Be the best at the age you are…and plan to be the best at the age you will be.” Now I just need to find a product to go with it.  The thing is, I fear no one would buy it.  Everyone would rather just pretend they can make themselves younger rather than working to age gracefully.

So here we go…for those of you who want to choose to grow in a beautiful way through your life. Spend a few minutes thinking about these questions.

How do you envision yourself as an old person?

Will you be bitter? Will you be kind? Will you be like a neighbor I once had?

When we moved in, my neighbor Edna introduced herself with a plate of food and a hug. She winked at me when she told me she likes to hug people…especially if they don’t expect it. I adored Edna…and I want to be just like her when I grow old.

If you want some motivation to think like an old person now, check out this awesome article: Think like a senior citizen and supercharge your life with happiness.

We cannot change the momentum of aging, but we can choose how we approach the process.

You’ll have to excuse me, I have to go…I have a flashmob dance to practice.

Copyright  2012    Meagan Frank                           Choosing to Grow

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15 responses to “Choose What Kind of Old Person You Want to Be

  1. alitajewel

    April 26, 2012 at 2:47 pm

    Changing how we perceive the process is essential. And I like how you stated “shut up” … It is a call to action.


    • meaganfrank

      April 27, 2012 at 12:20 pm

      It IS a call to action. Aging will happen whether you sit through the entire thing, or you get up and embrace it with open arms. One requires moving…the other does not! MMF

  2. millermix

    April 26, 2012 at 3:42 pm

    I want to be an awesome old person. One who gardens to share her yield and who children love to visit.

    • meaganfrank

      April 27, 2012 at 12:19 pm

      That’s a fantastic plan for aging. You would be the type of old person I would want to visit…for sure! MMF

  3. Kate

    April 26, 2012 at 8:08 pm

    How we live will be how we age. More smile wrinkles! More!!!

    • meaganfrank

      April 27, 2012 at 12:18 pm

      EXACTLY!!! You earn your smile wrinkles so why would you want to erase them? MMF

  4. Cecilia

    April 27, 2012 at 1:33 am

    I love this! I’ve recently started to try and turn around the way I think about getting old, and to see my 40s as the chance to grow into the person I’ve always meant to be. I have parents who have been panicking about aging for the last 30 years, and I don’t want to live in that kind of fear and paralysis. Great and much needed post.

    • meaganfrank

      April 27, 2012 at 12:17 pm

      Cecilia, I love that you have a way you want to go through your 40s. I think its easy to panic about aging, but I think it’s much better to PLAN! I hope you have other people who can model how you’d like to be with aging. MMF

  5. BigLittleWolf

    April 27, 2012 at 2:15 am

    I’m with you on this one! (But growing older still allows for hot shoes!

    • meaganfrank

      April 27, 2012 at 12:14 pm

      Absolutely! Hot shoes for some…fancy hair ribbons for others. The acouturement is expressive…the utter panic to stop time is tragic! MMF

  6. Cathy

    April 27, 2012 at 3:42 am

    I know exactly the type of old person I want to be and am on the course. I have a role model in mind – a second mother to me. A fantastic mother to three boys, adored by them all. Happy, real, fun to be around, liked to toss back a few.

    • meaganfrank

      April 27, 2012 at 12:15 pm

      Isn’t it fantastic to have those role models in our life. My goal as an old person is to BECOME one of those role models. MMF

  7. Sue Roethke

    April 27, 2012 at 5:27 am

    Growing older gratefully…… works for me!!

    • meaganfrank

      April 27, 2012 at 12:13 pm

      I absolutely LOVE this, Sue! It does work for you…and I plan to make it work for me too! :) MMF

  8. Sarah @ Momalom

    April 29, 2012 at 11:47 pm

    I love this. And I’m totally on board. To be honest, I think more short term right now. As in, how do I want to envision myself in the next 5 minutes? Do I want to feel good about the way I just handled my super obnoxious kids, or do I want to hate myself because I screamed at them again? I only ever used to think in the present–being guided by emotions I had AT THAT VERY TIME–and now I can say that I DO think ahead. And I hope with all hope that will only serve to make me into an old, aged, woman who is kind and happy and gives hugs to new neighbors.


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